How to take a break from your devices

Taking time to unplug is crucial for your health and relationships, but doing so can be easier said than done. Here’s how to create digital boundaries your whole household can get behind.

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Digital devices have become a big part of life. Most of us rely on them for work, remembering events and appointments, connecting with loved ones, and even ordering household essentials.

This technology is often a force for good that can enhance daily life. But how is all this screen time impacting our mental health? Well, it can mess with sleep, make it hard to concentrate, and increase a person’s risk of anxiety and depression.

The time spent in front of a screen also replaces time that might otherwise be used playing and being active. And that time is so important: Movement has been shown to lighten people’s moods, improve self-esteem and cognitive function, and protect against depression and anxiety.

And while it’s not necessary (or even possible) to avoid screens entirely, setting aside time each day to unplug can have major benefits. “Research shows that when people spend time in nature without their devices, they feel less stressed and more creative, have improved moods, and sleep better,” says Meghan Owenz, Ph.D., author of Spoiled Right: Delaying Screens and Giving Children What They Really Need.

That time spent in nature can be as simple as taking a walk in the park during your lunch break rather than checking your phone while you eat. Here are other ways to rest your eyes and recharge.

1. Be a model of healthy screen use

Parents and grandparents who limit screen time, both for themselves and the children they care for, can expect closer connections among family members. “A growing body of research shows that parents are really distracted by their digital devices when they are with their children,” says Owenz. “This distraction causes children to do more to bid for parents’ attention, including acting out.”

So, aim to create boundaries around your own device use and limit phone interruptions during family time, suggests Owenz. It’ll make it easier to connect with your child. And that connection may lead to better behavior. Some ideas you can try:

  • Take regular breaks (at least every 30 minutes) to move your body and stretch
  • Block out hours each day that are free of screens
  • Keep screens out of the bedroom

2. Create a plan

Along those lines, the American Academy of Pediatrics suggests creating a family media plan as a household. The first step is being aware of how each family member uses media, then creating goals and rules that meet your family’s values.

You might decide to designate screen-free zones, off-limits times, device curfews, and distinctions between “fun” screen use and work. You could also try downloading a “detach app” that allows you to block out certain apps (say, email or Facebook) at certain times of the day.

3. Keep your hands busy

For many of us, our phones are our pocket partners that travel with us wherever we go, which can sometimes make going offline difficult. To reduce the urge to check your phone, try to occupy yourself with nondigital entertainment. You might opt for reading a book, knitting, or coloring.

4. Foster face-to-face relationships

So many of our interactions these days are virtual. Still, digital relationships aren’t a replacement for the real deal, says the American Psychological Association, which suggests making time to nurture in-person bonds. That could mean playing board games together as a family, going on hikes, or finding hands-on hobbies that get each of you excited to put down the screens and have some IRL (in real life) fun.